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Just Dissed?

Posted on | November 30, 2004 | 12 Comments

I have a girlfriend in California who I talk to about twice a month. I’ve always thought we were pretty close, certainly close enough that if she were to get married she would invite me. Right? Wrong.
She just got married and I found out when I got a letter from her telling me about her nuptials which were two weeks ago and a “favor from one of our guest tables”. WTF?!?!
Not only did I not know she was getting married, I didn’t know she was dating anyone – she never mentioned anyone even when I asked her how her love life was going. How weird is that? Maybe she just met him? If so, maybe she knew I would try to warn her about jumping in to something so serious so quickly? Since they had guest tables and favors they must have planned a little in advance. I talked to her three weeks ago – no mention. I left a message for her 10 days ago and haven’t heard anything until todays letter – perhaps she was on her honeymoon.
I’m just not even sure what to think at this point…..
UPDATE: I still have not been able to reach her on the phone. I would really like to talk to her and find out what the situation is.



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12 Responses to “Just Dissed?”

  1. yayaempress
    November 30th, 2004 @ 8:08 am

    Wow, that’s pretty messed up. I’d certainly be upset.

  2. Michael
    November 30th, 2004 @ 8:13 am

    That’s bizarre. Maybe she… is embarrassed she got married? Eloped but with local guests?
    Odd that she wouldn’t even tell you she was dating though.

  3. Vox
    November 30th, 2004 @ 9:17 am

    That’s what I thought.
    Not inviting me to the wedding: No real biggy
    Not telling me about the wedding: Strange, but bearable
    Not telling me about the boyfriend: Just beyond comprehension

  4. wickld
    November 30th, 2004 @ 11:56 am

    I’d have to let it go myself, if she doesnt care enough about you to invite you, let alone tell you, maybe you werent as close as you thought.

  5. Vox
    November 30th, 2004 @ 12:52 pm

    I thought about that, but I would really like to get to the bottom of this – and I don’t want to write her off just yet.
    There may be more to the story…..

  6. PCD
    November 30th, 2004 @ 1:20 pm

    Vox,
    Maybe you DO know the groom, and you’ve had/got a problem with him. That is the only rational reasoning I have. Otherwise, you aren’t being dissed, you are being dumped.

  7. Vox
    November 30th, 2004 @ 2:27 pm

    Thought maybe I was being dumped, but why keep talking to me before – and why tell me about the wedding at all?
    Maybe it is someone I know – I’ll let you all know if I ever find out.

  8. onelamb
    November 30th, 2004 @ 11:21 pm

    That is really strange, I am leaning towards the, she didn’t want you to know who it is comment. You didn’t mention what the favor she asked was, or did I read that wrong. Not that you have to tell us, but did she ask a favor after not even mentioning the event to you?

  9. Vox
    December 1st, 2004 @ 12:55 am

    No, she didn’t ask a favor, she sent me one – from the guest tables. A little bracelet like thing with wedding charms on it.
    Since I can’t get in touch with her, I am trying to track down mutual friends for info.

  10. Stacy
    December 1st, 2004 @ 11:27 am

    Maybe it was one of those quickie “family & super-close friends only” sort of affairs. I’d want to know what the deal was before going all medieval on her.

  11. Lori
    December 1st, 2004 @ 7:03 pm

    I was thinking the same exact thing as PCD when I read this post. Wow, things that make you go hmmmm…. Even if it is someone you knew it is still uncool for her not to even mention it? Or invite you? That’s really strange. This is one of those things you read in Dear Abby!

  12. PCD
    December 2nd, 2004 @ 1:46 pm

    Lori,
    If you keep thinking like I do, you are going to be accused of being a relative of mine.