February 04, 2006

Strange Creatures

I will never figure you guys out. What in the world is it you find attractive in a woman. I get more attention when I am completely slobbed out than when I am slicked up.

Like tonight. I spent the day doing mostly unpleasant stuff; cleaning the pool, the bird cage, working out.... Then, with no shower, no make up, baggy clothes, I run to K-Mart. While I am looking at exercise equipment a guy comes up and starts asking me questions. I figure it is because maybe I look like I work out, being all sweaty and stinky and stuff.

I mean I REALLY looked like crap, people!

So then, as I am turning to leave, he asks if he can call me sometime for "coffee or whatever" What? He was hitting on me? If I would have thought that was even a remote possibility I would have left much sooner.

So now I am faced with how to give him the brush off.

  • Brutally honest, "No, I'm really not interested at all."
  • Honest, but milder, "I am already seeing someone."
  • Wimpy, give him my number but never answer.
  • Deceptive, give him a fake number.
So, what's the best choice?
SAJU, you are in dating mode, if the answer is going to be no, how would you prefer to hear it?

Incidentally, when I got to my car and found him following behind me, I changed from option 2 to "Get away from me!"

Can someone please explain to me why I get hit on most when I look my worst?

Posted by Vox at February 4, 2006 10:37 PM | TrackBack | Men
Comments

Because you've got natural beauty they can tell you could clean up and look real purdy. The reason they don't hit on you when you're all dolled up is because then they're intimidated.

Posted by: wickld at February 5, 2006 09:36 AM

Hmm, I like that one - I'll go with it. :-D

Posted by: Vox at February 5, 2006 10:51 AM

BTW, I met SG when he hit on me at a grocery store. I was looking quite sloborific that night. I came home and told Pete that I thought someone just hit on me, and he said, "Some guys like their women a little on the skanky side"

Niiiice.
I like yours better, WickId.

Posted by: Vox at February 5, 2006 10:54 AM

The best brush-off is "I'm flattered, but I'm already seeing someone." (Even if you're not flattered, and even if you're not seeing someone.) That allows most guys to escape with their dignity. Guys know from experience, though, that attractive women ALWAYS have one or more men in their orbit, and may be willing to upgrade if a bigger, better deal comes along. So, "already seeing someone" may not scare off the more aggressive guys. The average guy will turn tail, though, usually saying something like this: "He's a lucky guy..."

WickID is almost surely right -- they see a nice body and a cute face in a sloppy package and think, "Hmmm..." It's kind of like finding a first edition, author-autographed book in the remainder bin at Border's. You think, "Score!" When you're not looking your best but look like you would be a hottie after a shower and a change of clothes, the guy thinks, "This is perfect. This girl won't attract every guy within a quarter-mile radius, and she might even appreciate attention from an average-looking guy like me. But when I need her to look hot, she can pull that off, too."

Posted by: Special Agent Johnny Utah at February 5, 2006 09:41 PM