Ended up with last minute plans tonight to see an old friend for dinner and drinks - someone I haven't seen in at least a year. In that time she got divorced, which made it odd; I only knew her because of her husband (I remember when they started dating), I rarely ever saw her without him, I never really got along with him too well so I didn't see her that often. I always thought she was probably someone I would enjoy spending time with but it was unpleasant when she was with S, and akward once they split.
But then I heard from her at just the right time - when I really needed a drink, and figured dinner wouldn't hurt either. We met up at Abuelo's, Mexican food and margaritas - mmmm.
Three hours, a lot of laughing and too much food later we were finally ready to go (OMG, my margaritas were $8.50 each! Ouch!) So, with a promise to actually stay in touch, I made my way home.
I like her a lot better as a single gal - or at least not married to S. Is that horrible?
Posted by Vox at November 4, 2005 11:29 PM | generalIt makes a lot of sense. Most of my girlfriends disappeared when I married the turd of the century and at the time, I couldn't figure out why. Looking back, duh! Of course they were uncomfortable being around during that time; the last thing they wanted to do was listen to my brainwashed ass wax poetic about the world's biggest dork. Everybody could see what a phony he was except for me, but still, they knew they couldn't tell me what a creepazoid he was because it would have been a given that I would NEVER speak to them again. Rather than endure the complete gross-out of my zombie-like defense of the indefensible, they backed off.
I'm with a real man now, and people don't shun me. I've come to the conclusion that my seeming abandonment by my friends wasn't so much the result of me having a man, as it was me having an alleged man with the emotional and social maturity of a 13-year-old constantly tagging along.
She said that when they split up she didn't get a bunch of "I told you so"s, but she did get a lot of "We could all see it, Sweetie"
She wonders why no one bothered to share that insight with her before she walked down the aisle....
Posted by: Vox at November 5, 2005 09:21 AM