Rachel has a post today that reminded me of something that happened to me several years ago.
My father is not part of my life, hasn't been for a very long time. I occasionally have to see him at family functions but do my best to avoid any interaction. This works for me.
When I was getting married (a long, long time ago) I didn't bother to tell him - why would I? He wouldn't be invited and he certainly wouldn't be contributing financially (as if I would take his money). No reason what-so-ever to share it with him.
Well, he found out - of course, it wasn't a big secret - and spent weeks calling my sister and my grandmother and giving them grief about me not telling him myself. Jerk, like it was their fault. Anyway, when I heard about that I called him up and told him to leave them alone and that if he had a problem with me - he should bring it up with me. I told him I chose not to tell him because it was none of his business and that if he cared he should be glad someone told him in the first place.
Idiot...but maybe that's just my take on it.
So yeah, Rachel, I agree: if they had a question about you they should have asked you.
Posted by Vox at June 29, 2004 01:04 PM | general