November 30, 2004

Just Dissed?

I have a girlfriend in California who I talk to about twice a month. I've always thought we were pretty close, certainly close enough that if she were to get married she would invite me. Right? Wrong.

She just got married and I found out when I got a letter from her telling me about her nuptials which were two weeks ago and a "favor from one of our guest tables". WTF?!?!

Not only did I not know she was getting married, I didn't know she was dating anyone - she never mentioned anyone even when I asked her how her love life was going. How weird is that? Maybe she just met him? If so, maybe she knew I would try to warn her about jumping in to something so serious so quickly? Since they had guest tables and favors they must have planned a little in advance. I talked to her three weeks ago - no mention. I left a message for her 10 days ago and haven't heard anything until todays letter - perhaps she was on her honeymoon.

I'm just not even sure what to think at this point.....

UPDATE: I still have not been able to reach her on the phone. I would really like to talk to her and find out what the situation is.

Posted by Vox at November 30, 2004 01:36 AM | general
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Wow, that's pretty messed up. I'd certainly be upset.

Posted by: yayaempress at November 30, 2004 08:08 AM

That's bizarre. Maybe she... is embarrassed she got married? Eloped but with local guests?

Odd that she wouldn't even tell you she was dating though.

Posted by: Michael at November 30, 2004 08:13 AM

That's what I thought.

Not inviting me to the wedding: No real biggy

Not telling me about the wedding: Strange, but bearable

Not telling me about the boyfriend: Just beyond comprehension

Posted by: Vox at November 30, 2004 09:17 AM

I'd have to let it go myself, if she doesnt care enough about you to invite you, let alone tell you, maybe you werent as close as you thought.

Posted by: wickld at November 30, 2004 11:56 AM

I thought about that, but I would really like to get to the bottom of this - and I don't want to write her off just yet.

There may be more to the story.....

Posted by: Vox at November 30, 2004 12:52 PM

Vox,

Maybe you DO know the groom, and you've had/got a problem with him. That is the only rational reasoning I have. Otherwise, you aren't being dissed, you are being dumped.

Posted by: PCD at November 30, 2004 01:20 PM

Thought maybe I was being dumped, but why keep talking to me before - and why tell me about the wedding at all?

Maybe it is someone I know - I'll let you all know if I ever find out.

Posted by: Vox at November 30, 2004 02:27 PM

That is really strange, I am leaning towards the, she didn't want you to know who it is comment. You didn't mention what the favor she asked was, or did I read that wrong. Not that you have to tell us, but did she ask a favor after not even mentioning the event to you?

Posted by: onelamb at November 30, 2004 11:21 PM

No, she didn't ask a favor, she sent me one - from the guest tables. A little bracelet like thing with wedding charms on it.

Since I can't get in touch with her, I am trying to track down mutual friends for info.

Posted by: Vox at December 1, 2004 12:55 AM

Maybe it was one of those quickie "family & super-close friends only" sort of affairs. I'd want to know what the deal was before going all medieval on her.

Posted by: Stacy at December 1, 2004 11:27 AM

I was thinking the same exact thing as PCD when I read this post. Wow, things that make you go hmmmm.... Even if it is someone you knew it is still uncool for her not to even mention it? Or invite you? That's really strange. This is one of those things you read in Dear Abby!

Posted by: Lori at December 1, 2004 07:03 PM

Lori,

If you keep thinking like I do, you are going to be accused of being a relative of mine.

Posted by: PCD at December 2, 2004 01:46 PM